Why do many people not want to admit their mistakes?
- Many people in politics and social life do not admit the bad things they have done. Either he denies it or finds an excuse for what he has done. When he is told that he has done this or that, he immediately attacks his addressee. Can you tell me the reasons for this type of psychology?
-Why do these people do like that? What could be the solution to this in the context of verses of the Qur’an and hadiths?
Submitted by on Mon, 15/02/2021 - 10:40
Dear Brother / Sister,
- Man loves his own self / soul due to his nature. Love is blind; he does not see the flaws of the loved one. Even if he does, he still ignores them with a thousand excuses.
- In fact, he tries to use this "protection reflex" given to canonize not himself but his Lord because of his selfishness, which is a psychological obsession.
- Badiuzzaman Said Nursi explained the lesson he learned from the Quran in terms of disciplining the soul as follows.
“فَلاَ تُزَكُّوا اَنْفُسَكُمْ (Do not put your souls in the clear) As the verse, ‘Therefore, do not justify yourselves suggests’, it is to not purify the soul. For on account of his nature and innate disposition, man loves himself.
Indeed, he loves himself before anything else, and only himself. He sacrifices everything other than himself to his own soul. He praises himself in a manner befitting some object of worship. He absolves and exonerates himself from faults in the same way. As far as he possibly can, he does not see faults as being appropriate for him, and does not accept them. He defends himself passionately as though worshipping himself.
Even, using on himself the members and faculties given him as part of his nature in order to praise and glorify the True Object of Worship, he displays the meaning of the verse, مَنِ اتَّخَذَ اِلهَهُ هَوَيهُ (Who takes as his god his own desires). He considers himself, he relies on himself, he fancies himself.
Thus, his purification and cleansing at this stage, in this step, is to not purify himself; it is not to absolve himself. (see Sözler (Words), p. 492)
- As can be seen from this explanation, man’s defending his soul unjustly, denying his flaws stemming from loving himself / his soul adorably. It is a psychological obsession to use the devices of "praise and glorification / compliment and sanctification / seeing somebody as flawless" given for Allah, who is the true deity, for the account of his own soul. It is a virtue to accept the faults of the soul. Accepting flaws in the name of virtue gives man dignity in the sight of Allah. It is necessary to convince the soul about it.
- We want to give the translation of the whole verse about "putting souls in the clear", thinking that it will be an important lesson for all of us:
“They are the ones that refrain from serious sins and the indecencies except the small ones. Surely your Lord is the One Who is Vast in Forgiveness. He is the One Who knows you better. He had created you from the earth and you were embryos in the wombs of your mothers. So do not put your souls in the clear (do not assert that you have cleansed your souls). He (Allah) knows better who the owner of piety is.” (Surah an-Najm, 53/32)
- We clearly understand from this verse that, in modern terms, "our superintendent filling our records" is our Lord, who created us; however, the self-praising person becomes an arrogant official trying to fill his own record.
Questions on Islam
- The First Step: Not purifying the soul.
- Addendum: Ways of cleaning the soul and developing the spirit.
- 10- Satan does not allow man to confess his mistakes
- Second Step: To think of yourself when it comes to death and service of others, to forget yourself when it comes to pleasure and desires.
- Why does man blame qadar?
- How can the soul be purified?
- What is the dua that Hz. Abu Bakr recite in prayer?
- The following is stated in verse 28 of the chapter an-Nisa: "Man was created weak (in flesh)." How should we understand this verse?
- What are the basic weaknesses of man? Do you know the 6 weak aspects of man?
- Will you explain this verse:" Nor do I absolve my own self (of blame): the (human soul) certainly prone to evil, unless my Lord do bestow His Mercy: but surely my Lord is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." (Yusuf, 12/53)?