Does my husband have to be given houris in Paradise?

- Why do men have more than two wives in Paradise?
- Or why am I forced to consent to another woman because the feeling of jealousy is removed from me?
- If I attain the consent of Allah and enter Paradise, why is my consent not asked? Why are my feelings removed?

Dear Brother / Sister,

- First of all, a believer has to surrender to the deeds and decrees of Allah and he must not object. This surrendering is a necessity of belief.

“It is not fitting for a Believer, man or woman, when a matter has been decided by Allah and His Messenger to have any option about their decision: if any one disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he is indeed on a clearly wrong Path.” (al-Ahzab, 33/36)

That fact is underlined in the verse above.

- Allah allowed men to marry more than one woman in this world, based on some conditions. Allah definitely knew that women did not like co-wives very much when He gave that permission.

It means it is a means of testing for women -in the world. It is an important test as to whether women will show sincere submission to Allah or not.

- The feeling of jealousy is both a relatively good and habit. The general principle is this: Jealousy that prevents a person from violating Allah’s prohibitions is good. Jealousy that leads to resistance to Allah’s commands is bad.

Regarding as good what Allah regards as good and regarding as bad what He regards as bad is a virtue that must accompany the consciousness of believe.

- As for the most important point in the question;

Giving more than one houris to a man in Paradise is a grace of Allah. The jealousy of his wife from the world in Paradise is a side effect of it. It is necessary to look at the profit-loss section while making a choice about it.

a) If the man is deprived of houris because of the jealousy of the woman, it is an important loss for him.

b) If the man is given houris, it is a source of uneasiness for the woman.

c) In that case, the most reasonable and just decree is to save the woman from uneasiness and the man from loss. There is only one solution for it: to treat and eliminate the jealousy of the woman, and not to deprive the man of the treat.

That is how Allah’s just decision manifested itself.

d) Another thing is whether women want male houris or not.

The answer to the question exists on our website. The summary of it is as follows:

No woman in the world officially wants to live with two or more husbands. Even a woman who has illegitimate relationships is disturbed by being the wife of two husbands legitimately and officially.

That nature of the woman is valid in Paradise too. Women do not want to marry more than one man. It is a very strong emotion that cannot be compared to the feeling of jealousy.

Allah, who does everything based on wisdom, does “positive discrimination” in favor of women, who are gentle, delicate and easily hurt, in Paradise as in this world, and does not make a woman face off two men...

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