Does everyone live the life they deserve?

​Does everyone live the life they deserve? There are people around me who are brought up very well. Their families are religious and good people. They are very good people in appearance and in terms of their inner world. Their thoughts are clear; their lives are simple and they have been brought up in compliance with Islam. They are so good because of the environment and family in which they grow up. They usually lead their lives in a nice way: having a good marriage, profession, etc. I do not come from a religious family. They do not respect my thoughts. I am an ugly person in appearance and in terms of my inner world.  All of the members of my family are very weak in terms of religion; I was grown up like that too. We are all very pessimistic about life. They all wish they would die.

Dear Brother / Sister,

We were all born at hard times and undergo hard times.

What about the ones that lived before us?

Let us have a look at our ancestors Hz. Adam and Hawwa (Eve). Allah Himself addressed them but they committed a sin due to negligence and were sent to the world to be tested. Some of their children did not believe though they knew about it. You can think of the agonies they suffered.  

Have a look all prophets including Hz. Muhammad (pbuh), saints and friends of Allah. There were people among their relatives that did not believe like their parents, children, siblings, wives, members of their families and friends. Hz. Nuh conveyed the message of his religion to people for nearly 1000 years but fewer than 100 people embarked his ship. Was what they suffered less than what we suffer?

Look at the Ottoman State, which was one of the brightest and exemplary states of Islam. For instance, look at the reign of Sulayman the magnificent. Was everybody happy and without any problems?

Circumstances can change but Allah’s law never changes. Allah Almighty states the following:

“Be sure we shall test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods or lives or the fruits (of your toil), but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere.” (al-Baqara 155)

“Or do ye think that ye shall enter the Garden (of bliss) without such (trials) as came to those who passed away before you? they encountered suffering and adversity, and were so shaken in spirit that even the Messenger and those of faith who were with him cried: "When (will come) the help of Allah?" Ah! Verily, the help of Allah is (always) near.” (al-Baqara 214)

“We created not the heavens, the earth, and all between them, but for just ends. And the Hour is surely coming (when this will be manifest). So overlook (any human faults) with gracious forgiveness.” (al-Hijr 85)

“I have only created Jinn and men, that they may serve Me.” (adh-Dhariyat 56)

Our Lord gives answers to our questions in His book. We should seek consolation and peace in Him and take refuge in Him. We should never be unaware that we are being tested and that this test can be through our health, wealth, material and spiritual deficiencies and abundance; we should fulfill all our duties assigned to us, especially five daily prayers, pay attention to the balance of halal and haram, act based on causes and take refuge in Him and ask His help without being slaves of others.

We should show patience in the face of the things that happen to us and thank Allah.

We should never despair because the following is stated in the Quran:

“Say: ‘O my Servants who have transgressed against their souls! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah: for Allah forgives all sins: for He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.’” (az-Zumar 53)

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