Those who marry without flirting become less happy. Why does our religion prohibit flirting? It is necessary for people to know about their sexual desires and harmony; why is it regarded a sin for the people who will get married?

The religion of Islam prohibits a woman and a man from coming together, shaking hands, remaining alone, holding hand in hand, a man from looking at a woman, a man and a woman from talking about sexual issues and learning the sexual desires and expectations of each other. However, people who marry under those conditions understand after marriage that they are not harmonious sexually and seek sexual happiness outside. It is necessary for people to know about their sexual desires and harmony; why is it regarded a sin for the people who will get married?

Dear Brother / Sister,

Contrary to what you state, those who marry after flirting become less happy; the type of marriage in which marital conflicts are seen the most is marriage after flirting.

The man and woman try to appear in the best way to each other before marriage and it ends after marriage. Since a person cannot appear in the best and cutest way all the time, the couples start to act naturally. In that case, they accuse each other by saying, "You were not like that before; you changed after marriage. You are not interested in me as much as you used to."

Those who marry without flirting feel all the excitement and love during the marriage, not before marriage; so their marital life becomes more harmonious and healthier.

How many times do you think a woman or a man will try flirting before marriage in order to understand pre-marital experience and sexual harmony? He/she will try someone; if it is not successful, another one, another one… This is not ethical and moral at all.

Every man and woman want themselves to be the first man/woman for their spouses in their life. Otherwise, there will not be trust and security in their marriage; the previous relationships of the spouses will cause trouble.

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