If a mother or father curses their children about an issue though he or she is wrong, will their curse be accepted?
Submitted by on Sat, 05/03/2016 - 00:28
Dear Brother / Sister,
The religion of Islam asks a child to show respect to his/her parents and renders any disrespect toward them as haram. Therefore, a child needs to obey his parents' requests and orders if they are legitimate and receive their prayers. A child needs to avoid the curse of his parents. However, if they curse unjustly, Allah knows inside of everything. The child will not be accounted for because of the unjust curse of his parents and the child will not be held responsible if his parents do not forgive them. What matters for a child is to fulfill his duties toward his parents.
The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) states the following:
"I was not sent as a curser." (Muslim, Birr 87)
"To curse a believer is like to kill him." (Bukhari, Adab 44)
"If a curse is unjust, it will return to the person who has cursed." (Tirmidhi, Birr 48; Abu Dawud, Adab 45)
It is Allah who accepts prayers and curses. If the parents are unjust, their curses will not be accepted. However, it is not appropriate for a child to disobey his parents and to offend them even if they are unjust. It is necessary to obey all of their legitimate requests. However, their illegitimate requests are not fulfilled.
Besides, unjust curses are not valid. To become parents does not necessitate the right to have unlimited authority on children. The child needs to warn his parents using soft words for their unjust behavior. If they do not change their behavior even if the child speaks softly, it is better to keep silent.
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