What are we supposed to do if our parents are disbelievers? If our parents try to make us to do something which is contrary to the pillars of the religion, What should we do?

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What are we supposed to do if our parents are disbelievers? If our parents try to make us to do something which is contrary to the pillars of the religion, What should we do?
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Dear Brother / Sister,

Asma' bint Abu Bakr As-Siddiq (May Allah be pleased with her) said: My mother came to me while she was still a polytheist, so I asked Messenger of Allah (PBUH), "My mother, who is ill-disposed to Islam, has come to visit me. Shall I maintain relations with her?'' He (PBUH) replied, "Yes, maintain relations with your mother". [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

It is clearly understood that even if our parents are disbelievers, we are supposed to carry out our humane approaches towards them and show them due respect as their children.

Also the verse sheds further light on this issue: Allah forbids you not, with regard to those who fight you not for (your) Faith nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them: for Allah loveth those who are just. (Al-Mumtanahah, 8)

Even if they are disbelievers, the following verse makes it quite clear that one needs to respect their parents: "But if they strive to make thee join in worship with Me things of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not; yet bear them company in this life with justice (and consideration), and follow the way of those who turn to me (in love): in the end the return of you all is to Me, and I will tell you the truth (and meaning) of all that ye did." (Al-Lukman, 15)

As a result, if your parents try to make you do something which is contrary to the pillars of the religion, you should refrain from doing it. Apart from this, it is quite advisable to get along well with them.

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