Can you give some information about overcoming anger and about brotherhood of Islam?

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Asalaam o aleikum, I have a huge problem of anger. I'm fine for 2 days and then all of a sudden I get so angry and it gets worse and worse everyday and of course its unforgetable. Is there any supplication I can read on daily basis, or any suppliction (dua) that I can keep with me at all times. I want my self to be calm. I'm a female and I extremely dislike the amount of anger that builts in me please help jazakalah...
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Dear Brother / Sister,

Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings upon him, says “The greatest wrestler is the one who defeats his/her evil commanding soul when angered.” And our greatest enemy is our own evil commanding souls.

In order to conquer anger, one

1. should not follow the evil commanding soul's and Satan's lead,
2. should be silent when angry,
3. should get ablution when angry,
4. should change one's place when angry,
5. should convince one's soul by reading about religious and faith-related subjects,
6. should pay attention to such duties as supplication, exalting Allah, worship, prayers, fasting and stick to them,
7. should compensate for the damage and apologize, when one harms someone with no right,
8. should think about death often,
9. should know that the beauties given to us are Allah's trusts and should act accordingly,
10. ...

Anger is among moral deficiencies. Rage which is at the extreme degree of the human power of anger is a disaster. While angry, one cannot think properly. One cannot act with reason. The deeds performed with anger are always the deeds that are regretted afterwards. For this very reason it is said in the proverb: “Whoever stands up with anger sits down with damage.”

We often hear people who commit murder with a momentary rage. Anger leads to unrest and problems in houses and in workplaces. One should endeavor to conquer one's anger by utilizing one's willpower, and should try to forgive those who anger one. Allah Most High says in The Qur'an:

They spend (out of what God has provided for them,) both in ease and hardship, ever-restraining their rage (even when provoked and able to retaliate), and pardoning people (their offenses). God loves (such) people who are devoted to doing good, aware that God is seeing them.” (The Qur'an, Al-'Imran, 3:134)

Allah's Messenger, peace and blessings upon him, said to a man who came to him and asked his advice: “Do not be angered!” and he repeated that for a couple of times. (Riyazu's-Salihin, I, 80).

It is necessary to invoke Allah and to ask for the removal of anger. Upon seeing an angry person, The Prophet (PBUH) said:

I know of a word such that if this man says it, his anger will surely vanish. This word is: Auzu billahi minash-shaytanirrajim.” (I seek refuge in God from Satan the rejected/stoned) (Muslim, Birr wa Sila, 109)

In another hadith (saying of The Prophet) it is stated:

The strong and heroic wrestler is not the one who defeats everybody. The strong and heroic wrestler is only the one who, at the time of anger, is in possession of one's soul and conquers one's anger.” (Muslim, Birr wa Sila, 107)

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said in another one of his hadiths:

If one conquers one's anger though capable of doing what anger leads to do, Allah calls for him on the day of resurrection before people's eyes and grants him the permission to choose whoever he wants among the Houris (pure companions of Paradise).” (Riyazu's-Salihin, I, 80)

In the Qur'an, the anger that unbelievers feel toward believers is often mentioned. Believers, on the other hand, are the ones who conquer their anger.

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) advised seeking refuge in Allah as the remedy for anger and pointed out that the will power that human attains by educating oneself will save himself/herself from getting angry. Again The Prophet saw anger as a sign not of power and strength but of weakness and incapacity.

Anger is a sign of not being able to control the soul. The end of those who cannot control their souls is disillusionment. A Muslim should perform his/her deeds not with anger but with prudence, patience and mildness.

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