What was the relationship between the Prophet (pbuh) and his Companions like? How did he treat them?

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What was the relationship between the Prophet (pbuh) and his Companions like? How did he treat them?
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It is necessary to read the books that narrate the life, ethics and attitudes of the Prophet (pbuh) in detail in order to find the answers to these questions. However, we will try to mention some of his characteristics briefly:  

We learn about the high ethics of the Prophet (pbuh) and his relationships with other people from his companions, who followed him closely like a shadow. Those who knew the Prophet (pbuh) best were his wives, the people who served him and his close friends.

For instance, we learn from his loyal and enduring wife, Hz Khadijah, who lived with him for twenty-five years, fifteen years being in the period before his prophethood, about his personality and characteristics briefly.

Hz. Khadijah believed in the Prophet (pbuh) without any hesitation when he received the first revelation. When she saw that the Prophet was in panic, she soothed him and eliminated his worries.

Hz. Khadijah consoled the Prophet as follows: 

"Allah will never embarrass you because you help the desperate, protect the poor, support the oppressed, entertain guests and take care of those who suffer misfortunes in the way of the truth."

Hz, Aisha, who lived with the Prophet for nine years, was his wife whom he liked the most after Hz. Khadijah. We learned about the family life of the Prophet and most of his characteristics from Hz. Aisha. She described the ethics of the Prophet as follows: 

"The ethics of the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) was the ethics of the Quran. The Messenger of Allah never nursed a grudge against anybody and never took revenge. He got angry with a person because the Quran got angry with him. He liked something or someone because the Quran liked it or him."

"When the Messenger of Allah had to choose between two things, he would choose the easier one. If that easy thing was a sin, the Messenger of Allah would keep away from it more than anybody else."

"He did not utter any bad words; he did not want to wrong anybody. When the Messenger of Allah spoke, he would not link and lengthen words. He would utter words distinctly when he talked. A person who listened to him could memorize what he said if he wished."

Hz. Ali (ra), who was educated by the Prophet (pbuh) beginning from an early age, who was always with him after his prophethood and who continued his bloodline, listed the ethical characteristics of the Prophet (pbuh) as follows:

"The Prophet was always merry, gentle and benevolent. He was not surly, hard-hearted, aggressive, phony, toady or jealous; he did not try to find people's mistakes."

"He turned a blind eye to the things he did not like; he never disappointed the people who expected something from him; he did not deprive them of what they wanted."

"He kept away from three things: squabbling, gabbiness and useless things. He definitely avoided three things: He did not discredit or condemn anybody; he did not try to find out about people's faults and secrets."

"He talked about only the things that he expected to be useful. When the Prophet spoke, the listeners pricked up their ears and listened attentively. When he stopped talking, those who wanted to talk would ask for permission to speak."

"When the Companions spoke in the presence of the Prophet , they never argued or quarreled. When one of them spoke in the presence of the Prophet, the others listened to him carefully until he finished his words. The words of all of them were listened as carefully as the words of the first speaker."

“He laughed at the things that his Companions laughed and wondered at the things that they wondered. He showed patience when some strangers talked rudely and asked irrelevant questions. The Companions wanted those people to ask questions very much. 

“The Prophet said, ‘When you meet someone who is in need, help him’."

“The Prophet accepted only the praises that were equal to the favors he did and that were not flattery; he did not interrupt the words of anyone unless they transgressed their limits. If people spoke by transgressing their limits, he either silenced them or left that place in order to prevent them.”

Hind bin Abi Hala, who was the son of Hz. Khadijah from her first husband and who was the stepson of the Prophet, described the superior characteristics of the Prophet as follows when Hz. Hasan asked him:

“The Messenger of Allah was always mindful. His silence was longer than his speech. He never spoke unnecessarily. He mentioned Allah’s name when started and finished talking. He told the truth when he spoke; he expressed several meanings concisely through a few words. He uttered neither more nor fewer words than necessary. He showed respect to even the smallest bounty; he did not regard any bounty as ordinary. He did not praise or criticize a bounty because he liked or disliked it."

“He did not get angry for worldly affairs. However, he got so angry when the right of someone was violated that nothing and nobody could prevent his fury and wrath before that violation was eliminated. On the other hand, he did not get angry with anybody regarding something that interested him only; he did not think of taking revenge; on the contrary, he returned a good deed for a bad deed as a gentle and generous person."

“When he got angry, he would get over his anger very quickly and he did not show his anger. When he was joyful, he would close his eyes. He would smile instead of laughing. When he smiled, his teeth looked like pearls.”

Hz. Anas bin Malik, who served the Prophet (pbuh) for nine years, describes a nice characteristic of the Prophet (pbuh) as follows:

“The Messenger of Allah was the most gracious man among people. Even when it was very cold in a winter morning, he would make wudu with the water brought by a female slave or a child. When somebody asked the Messenger of Allah something, he would listen to him carefully and he would not leave before the person who asked the question left."

“When somebody shook hands with the Messenger of Allah, the Messenger of Allah would not release his hand before that person released his hand.”

A few people went to Zayd bin Thabit, a revelation scribe of the Prophet and asked him, “O Zayd! Will you inform us about the state, attitudes and words of the Prophet (pbuh)?” Zayd described him as follows:

“What shall I tell you about that supreme Messenger? You ask me about all of his states, attitudes and words; he is such a sea that he has no coast. However, I will tell you about some of his attitudes:"

“I was a neighbor of the Messenger of Allah. When he received revelation, he would send someone to me; I would go to his presence and write down the revelation that he received. When we talked about the worldly affairs in his presence, he would also talk about the worldly affairs. When we talked about the otherworldly affairs, he would also talk about the otherworldly affairs. When we talked about eating, he would also talk about eating.”

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