Will you give information about qismah inhibition or prevention (not being able to get married)?

- Is there such a thing as qismah inhibition or prevention (not being able to get married) in our religion?
- Some hodjas say that a person’s qismah is inhibited and that such a person will not be able to complete the marriage procedure.  To what extent should we believe them, or is it a hoax?
- If this kind of interpretation is true, how can we overcome it, with which prayers??

Dear Brother / Sister,

Since one does not know whether his qismah is inhibited or not, he should make attempts to obtain something that he wants. If we get what we want after attempting these things, we will be grateful. If we do not get what we want, we should say, “It means it was not good for us,” and be grateful that we did not get it and should believe that we will be given something better in the hereafter.

Misinterpretations should be avoided when waiting for qismah. Some people have a wrong conception of qismah inhibition.

These people, who are caught up in apprehension and wrong thoughts, may say without hesitation:

“Our daughter or son’s qismah never appears; and when it does, it does not result in an agreement; it fails due to some excuse! So, they have inhibited his qismah. We are already suspicious of so-and-so and so-and-so neighbors...”

However, Allah has not given anyone the opportunity or the power to inhibit the qismah of another person. Therefore, there can be no such thing as inhibiting one’s qismah. However, waiting for one’s qismah is in question.

So, the issue is not the inhibition of qismah, but waiting for qismah.

It should never be forgotten that Allah never inhibits the qismah of His slaves. So much so that He will marry even those who die in this world without being able to marry off in Paradise at the age of thirty-three as the most handsome young men in Paradise; He will bring their qismah to them again; He will never leave them without a qismah. Then, they will never regret their waiting in the world because the marriage in paradise is incomparably more special and beautiful than the marriage on earth... It becomes a source of complete happiness and bliss.

We think the most important point to remember here is this:

Those who are waiting for their qismah in the world should take the waiting period as a great opportunity and aim to improve their qualities and increase their qualifications during this time, to move from being an unskilled worker to being a qualified candidate and to make themselves valuable with many qualities. For equality is essential both in this world and in the hereafter. Those who are qualified in this world will marry those who are qualified in paradise. In this respect, one should consider the period of waiting for qismah as a period of gaining and increasing good qualities, and should strive to become worthy of the highly qualified people.

In fact, one of the benefits of waiting is that it warns man as if saying, “increase your good qualities”.

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