Is it necessary to apologize after breaking somebody's heart?
Submitted by on Mon, 03/02/2014 - 13:56
Dear Brother / Sister,
The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) emphasized the importance of asking for pardon by saying,
"Whoever has wronged his brother should ask for his pardon (before his death), as (in the Hereafter) there will be neither a dinar nor a dirham. (He should secure pardon in this life) before some of his good deeds are taken and paid to his brother, or, if he has done no good deeds, some of the bad deeds of his brother are taken to be loaded on him (in the Hereafter)."(Tajrid Sarih Translation, hadith numbered VII/375, 376, 1090 hadith numbered)
We learn from a hadith reported by Bukhari that the rights will be settled in the hereafter if it is not done in the world:
"After being saved from Hell, the believers will be stopped at a bridge between Paradise and Hell and mutual retaliation will be established among them regarding wrongs they have committed in the world against one another. After they are cleansed and purified (through the retaliation), they will be admitted into Paradise."(Tajrid Sarih Translation, hadith numbered VII/353-354, 1085)
"On the Day of Judgment, all of the rights will be given to their owners. The hornless sheep would get its claim from the horned sheep." (Tirmidhi, Sifatu'l Qiyama, I)
The hadith above shows the importance of the rights of individuals and the importance of asking for pardon.
The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) informs us about the importance of the rights of individuals and asking for pardon and settling claims as follows:
"All of the sins of martyrs are forgiven except the rights of individuals." (Tajrid Sarih Translation, hadith numbered VII/349, 1084)
The Messenger of Allah defined those who need to ask for pardon from others as "bankrupt" and described their situation as follows:
"The bankrupt is a person from my nation who comes on the Day of Judgment with prayer, fasting, and charity, but also with insulting, slandering, consuming wealth, shedding blood, and beating others. They will each be given from his good deeds; if his good deeds run out before the score is settled, their bad deeds will be cast upon him, then he will be thrown into Hell."(Muslim, Birr, 59)
Asking for pardon and settling claims with people is the only way of getting rid of debts in order to be saved from bankruptcy in the hereafter.
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