Is it a sin to make love with one’s girlfriend or kiss her? Can you tell me in detail if making love is regarded as fornication and how I can get rid of it? What is the wedding night like according to Islam?
Dear Brother / Sister,
Making love with your girlfriend or fiancée or kissing her without a marriage contract is a big sin. If the phrase “making love” is used in the sense of fornication, one of the biggest sins is committed. However, if the phrase “making love” is used in the sense of making love without sexual intercourse, it is not fornication, but it is still haram even if it is not fornication because it is forbidden by Allah.
It is haram to touch or shake hands with a non-mahram woman.
The women who paid allegiance to the Prophet (pbuh) said:
“O Messenger of Allah! You did not hold our hands when we paid allegiance.” The Prophet (pbuh) said, “I do not shake hands with women.” (1)
Aisha (ra) states the following about allegiance:
“I swear by Allah that the Messenger of Allah’s hand did not touch a woman’s hand. He took their allegiance only with words.” (2).
The Prophet (pbuh) states the following in a hadith:
“It is better for one of you to be poked in the head with a needle than to touch a woman who is non-mahram for him.”
Islam does not degrade women by prohibiting shaking hands with them; on the contrary, it saves their honor. It prevents people with bad intentions from touching them with lust.
References:
1. Ahmad bin Hanbal, Nasai, Ibn Majah
2. Muslim; Halil GÜNENÇ, Günümüz Meselelerine Fetvalar II. 170.
Questions on Islam
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- Can you give information about women being in the same place as men (ikhtilat) for listening to the Quran and religious talks or as guests in a house?
- Are there any harmful aspects for a woman to work in a place where women and men work together? Should the woman obey her husband or parents regarding the issue?
- Is a woman’s face regarded as mahram? Is it permissible to look at women’s faces?
- Is it permissible for a woman to uncover her head in the presence of her sister's husband? Is my brother-in-law mahram to me? Can I uncover my head in his presence?
- Does touching a woman invalidate ablution?
- Does wearing make-up invalidate wudu?
