STUDY OF RELIGIOUS AWARENESS IN FAMILY AND EDUCATION ENVIRONMENT
(It is supposed to be filled by the parents or the educator separately)
It has been developed by Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan as the study of awareness for Turkish culture.
The Answers (except some special questions) are supposed to be in the form of
Marital Status: Married… Widow/Widower… Bachelor…
I am the mother:… I am the father:… I am a foundation:..
( ) Do you think religious education is necessary? If it is necessary, at what age should it be started?
( ) Should religious education be given by parents or religion teachers?
( ) Do you agree with the thought “Education by doing and serving as examples is more effective than education through preaching and giving advice”?
( ) Can you say, “I can serve as a good example to children and young people through my attitudes and acts?
( ) Do you say, “I can wear sports clothes if it is necessary in a style that will not contradict average clothing style of the community”?
( ) I do not think that I should try to change my accent.
( ) It is important to have general culture.
( ) I try to abide by the manners of sitting, standing, talking and eating.
( ) Can you say “I act upon the thought that education is a deep understanding, warming compassion, relieving care and leading guidance”?
( ) I give priority to educating myself while studying or reading books.
( ) I accept that appreciation, praise, giving good news and endearing are essential and that criticism and punishment are exceptional.
( ) I pay attention to timing, planned working and keeping my promise.
( ) My children and the young people in the cram school go back to their rooms when they see me.
( ) I play games almost every day with my children and the young people in the cram school, chat with them and try to be their friends.
( ) I often experience difficulty of controlling and disciplining children and young people.
( ) I often try to teach something about vital issues while having dinner.
( ) Even if I notice that my preaching and advice bore my children or young people, I go on giving advice.
( ) I try to find ways of making my preaching softer and more likeable.
( ) I try to perform prayers in congregation with my child.
( ) Everybody in my home tries to worship.
( ) We generally get up for the morning prayer in our home.
( ) We definitely read books altogether as a family at least two or three times a month.
( ) I am known as a generally angry person at home or at cram school.
( ) I do not generally laugh or smile at home or at cram school.
( ) Children and the young people in the cram school avoid asking me questions.
( ) The tone of voice is usually loud in my home or at cram school.
( ) It has become a habit for us to pray after eating.
( ) I try to learn the psychology of children and young people and generally try to act accordingly.
( ) I buy and read books on educational psychology.
( ) I try to teach by making things easy and likeable.
( ) I try to teach good things through commands, advice and authority.
( ) If you say that you do not apply pressure on your children and young people, ask yourself whether you do the following or not:
– I do not approve of shouting and scolding; I rarely resort to them.
– I sometimes become so insistent as to make the person opposite me shout.
– I always control my child so that he will be very successful and a good religious person. I check him so that he will not make mistakes.
– I always praise him.
– I always tell my child about good ethical properties so that he will be a religious person. I go on doing it even if I notice that he is bored.
( ) In order to protect my child from evil,
– I put the TV set away,
– I restrict his friends,
– I talk to him for a long time about the right and wrong acts.
– If he does not accept,
– I will beat him,
– shout at him,
– scold him,
– quarrel with him,
– increase my inspection,
– increase my advice
–make him feel that I am sad
–I let him decide
–I stop giving him pocket allowance
( ) About using a computer and the Internet,
–there is a computer in his room,
–there is Internet access in his room,
–he watches violent flms,
–he watches romantic soap operas,
–he watches sports programs,
–he listens to music a lot,
–The rate of my studying or playing with him together…..
( ) I use the phrases, “keep silent, do not talk, you do not know about it, stop grinning” a lot.
( ) I think my child and young people should be obedient and disciplined.
( ) I try to learn the expectations of children or young people and what they want to be changed.
( ) I pay attention to the complaints of children or young people about me and the family and listen to them.
( ) People often resort to telling lies in my home.
( ) We often experience hostile feelings in our home.
( ) What kind of music does he listen to?
–I do not know
( ) He watches television about ….. hours a day.
( ) Mark as +3,+2,+1 and 0 what you use for discipline methods based on their level.
– Being cross with
– Using forgiving in education
– Instead of using the pronoun “I”, talking without using a pronoun
– Serving as an example
– Using implications
– Discipline containing compassion
– Instead of using “I”, using “you”.
– Criticizing the behavior, not the person
– Being good-humored but determined
– Praising the behavior, not the person
– Using persuasion and convincing
– Trying to understand him first
– Discrimination between big mistakes and small mistakes
– Searching the best method that will be suitable for his nature
– Correcting the wrong deeds immediately
– Praising and appreciating right acts.
( ) If you make plans for your child or a young person to learn religious and ethical values separately, mark as +3,+2,+1, 0, -1, -2, -3 for the values that you serve as an example to grade them.
– Loving people
– Loving animals and the environment
– Showing respect to the elderly
– Adherence to truths
– Keeping promise
– Not being conceited
– Not despising others
– Being modest
– Being charitable
– Enjoying doing a favor
– Having the responsibility of preventing bad deeds
– Being patient
– Being tender-minded
– Being generous
– Being thrifty
( ) When I teach them to worship and pray, I try to make them loveable.
( ) When he does not worship and pray as it is necessary or when he acts contrarily to religious values, I tell him about the concepts of the soul and devil and mention him about the benefits of struggling against them.
( ) I believe that it is more effective to give my children and young people some ideas than giving them orders and approaching them bossily.
( ) I believe that it is right to give my children and young people some choices and let them decide.
( ) I can show respect to my children or young people regarding the issues that they think differently from me.
( ) I give them the right to make mistakes so that their talents will develop.
( ) I know that criticism demotivates people; therefore, I try to resort to it rarely but I cannot manage to do it.
( ) Everybody thinks of themselves in our home.
( ) When somebody is sad at home, everybody knows the reason.
( ) When somebody is in trouble at home, the others take care of him and try to solve the problem.
( ) We support each other in case of trouble and distress immediately.
( ) Everyone listens to what they like in our home.
( ) Everyone reminds the others of their duty in our home but they neglect what they should do.
( ) I do not think that there is fair and equal distribution in our home.
( ) Everyone is their own master in our home.
( ) Most of the people in our home suppress their feelings.
( ) We do not show our love toward one another in our family.
( ) Everybody interferes in one another’s business in our family.
( ) Everybody solves their own problems in our home because we do not have time to care for the others.
( ) We treat one another tolerantly.
( ) Our home is not a place where there are rules.
( ) It is not easy at all to solve problems in our home.
( ) In our home, older people give us duties without asking for our opinion.
( ) I generally feel happy on the way home.
( ) Everybody tries to make sacrifices in our home.
( ) Compassion and tolerance have priority in our home.
( ) Solutions to problems are found by talking over them in our home.
( ) Solutions to problems are always postponed in our home.
( ) I try to form opportunities in order to develop the self-confidence of the children and young people and to make them experience the feeling of achievement but I cannot manage to do it.
- How should a child be trained and religiously educated? How should we teach Allah to children?
- How should we inform our children about sexuality?
- What are children's rights over their parents?
- To what extent are friendships of chat right? How can the families that crack online be saved?
- How shall we tell our children about Allah?
- I am afraid of having children in this age. Is it appropriate not to think of having children due to the things happening at the end of time?
- Evaluation about throwing bread away and wasting: Is it not a sin to throw away bread?
- Evaluation about throwing bread away and wasting: Is it not a sin to throw away bread?
- What is the importance of taking care of girls (daughters)?
- Who has the right of divorce?