What is appropriate concerning a previous childs mother.

I am having a personal issue that maybe you could give me some advise on?! When I married my husband, I knew of a previous child. The woman had told another man the baby was his and had my husband stay away as to not ruin the family she was trying to build. The other man has since found out the truth and left her. So she now contacts my husband wanting him to be the father {8 years later} I'm wondering how it is appropriate for them to communicate. I am not comfortable for this woman {who is not of Islam nor projects herself as a lady with multiple children by multiple men} to have my husbands cell phone number so she can just call him whenever she feels like it. I also feel like he shouldnt be talking to her alone, without me present anyways. The child is old enough to contact and call him if she wants to. Also how is it appropriate for them to meet? I feel as tho I should be there. This is all really wearing on me and do not want to leave my husband but also will not allow this woman to bring the devil into our house. I am due with our 3rd child in 2 months and really dont want this drama in my life. Please help me understand how I should act as a wife and how he should deal with this as well. Thank you so much.

Dear Brother / Sister,

It is not religiously acceptable for your husband to meet his former wife. They may talk on the telephone to solve the problems if there are some; yet both of them should maintain their seriousness because they are not a married couple any more.

If she knows the father of the child, she should make him gain the child’s custody. It is a sin for them to meet based on this excuse.

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