Does a woman have to have intercourse with her husband whenever he asks her to?
- Is it religiously objectionable if the woman does not agree?
- Or is it more important when the woman wants to?
Dear Brother / Sister,
The best thing to do is to consider the biological and psychological conditions of both parties regarding the issue. It means that the woman and the man should meet each other’s desires unless there is a biological or psychological obstacle.
It is not permissible for spouses to abstain from sexual duties.
It is the husband’s right to enjoy his wife’s sexuality just as it is the wife’s right to enjoy her husband’s sexuality. The woman becomes a sinner when she does not fulfill this obligation and the man becomes a sinner when he does not fulfill it.
God Almighty states the following in the Quran:
“And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them, according to what is equitable; but men have a degree (of advantage) over them.” (al-Baqara, 2/228)
“A degree” mentioned in the verse is not about sexuality. Men and women are equal in terms of sexuality. The man has a degree of advantage in terms of taking care of the woman, protecting her property, managing her, and bearing the burden of the family.
Regarding your question, the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) states the following:
“It is not lawful for a woman to perform supererogatory fasting while her husband is with her without his permission. A woman cannot allow anyone to enter her house without her husband’s permission.” (Bukhari, Nikah 86; Muslim, Zakah 84)
“When a man calls his wife for sexual intercourse, she should obey him even if she is cooking on the stove.” (Tirmidhi, Rada 10)
“When a man calls his wife to bed, if she avoids coming (without any excuse) and her husband spends the night offended, the angels will curse her until the morning.” (Bukhari, Nikah 85; Muslim, Nikah 120)
“Shall I introduce to you the women of Paradise? They are the women who are devoted to their husbands and who can say to their husbands, ‘I will not sleep until I please you’ when they have made a mistake or have been wronged by their husbands.” (Tafsiru Qurtubi, III, 124)
Likewise, it is a woman’s right to benefit from her husband’s sexuality. It is her husband’s duty to help her fulfill this right. The husband’s failure to fulfill this duty makes him guilty and sinful.
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